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POSITIONING
These Top Ten
are treated in a humorous way, just to point
out the main issues. So don't be offended
whether you're French or American.
About the Submitter 1 - Do not expect a NO at any time, under any circumstance. If you get one straight no, your counterpart is being rude or unusually straight forward. 2 - Be patient. Be prepared to get a slow relationship build-up. Japanese only make serious business with people that they are familiar and comfortable with. 3 - Have ten times more business cards than you think necessary. 4 - Strict business attire is the norm for acceptability. Coat and tie for men. Skirts are preferred for ladies. 5 - Do not walk into their offices with a top-coat on. If you are in their office you are supposed to be ready to do business. Remove the coat before walking into the reception area. 6 - If you cannot drink alcohol, say so openly but try and stay at the same level of merriness as the r'r'rest of the group as the evening develops. 7
- Yes is not a formula expressing an agreement
beyond the very moment. The opinion
may easily change the next day and that is very
acceptable in Japan. 8 - Request that a contract be drawn stating clearly the commitments. It will ruffle their feathers but protect you in the long run. 9
- Do not try to bow in the right manner. A short
bow is sufficient to indicate
that you are aware of their habit but not
proficient at nuances. 10
- Use an interpreter. It reduces the chances of
misunderstanding. Top Ten for dealing with Italians 1
- Do not expect to do business in the
first few minutes - families are more
important 3 - Do expect them to say yes most of the time - don't hold them to it 4 - Do enjoy their love of life, good humour and amazing hospitality 5 - Do take a small gift if you visit their home - and you will. 6 - When invited make sure you leave plenty of time for meals, two hours is the minimum. 7 - If they are your client - you need patience and humour 8 - Generally they tend to over promise and under-deliver 9 - Help them to learn how to listen and really hear. 10 - They will either be your best friend or your worst, there is not much in-between. About the
submitter :
The Top 10
Tips for Developing Organization in the
Workplace
It's easy to get
caught up in the overwhelm of the day-to-day
work environment.
This top ten provides focus to develop
organizational skills
and find the time to do your work.
1)
Understand how you spend your time:
Do you take on
everyone's responsibilities? Are you
continuously
interrupted? Do you get caught up in the
complaining?
2)
Establish your priorities:
What are you really responsible for?
Are you your
number one priority? Look at and focus on what
really
needs to be done in your job. Don't let what
others are doing distract you.
3)
Recognize everyone is not you:
Don't get caught
up in the ONLY I CAN DO THIS WELL OR RIGHT
trap.
4)
Listen to and answer questions clearly and
redirect work to those responsible:
Are you doing
everyone's work but your own? Are you
extremely helpful?
Do you really need to be?
5)
Eliminate the unnecessary tasks:
Beware of WE'VE
ALWAYS DONE IT THIS WAY thinking. It may not
be the
best way or it may not even be necessary any
longer.
6)
Eliminate the energy drains:
How much energy
do you lose listening to chronic complainers?
Do you
participate? How do you feel? Understand what
drains you or bogs
you down. Set boundaries. Remove yourself from
the situation.
7)
Delegate!
Really delegate
and be clear in expectations. Assume nothing.
8)
Practice saying NO:
What is the
worst thing that can happen if you say NO? If
you
say yes but you
really meant no, you can change your mind. The
world won't
end if you say NO.
9)
Let go of the guilt:
Stop feeling
guilty. Realize you are right. Value your
opinion.
No one but you
can make you feel guilty. Don't allow it to
happen!
10)
Grow your personal foundation:
Take the steps
to really strengthen and broaden your
perspective.
About the
Submitter:
Submitted by
Diane Brennan, MBA, CMPE, RN, who can be
reached at dibrennan@worldnet.att.net,
or visited on the web at http://www.dianebrennan.com
The Top 10
Distinctions between Management and Leadership
Management is
distinct from leadership; never forget
both are necessary and important to be an
efficient and reliable organization !
1)
Managers
maintain; Leaders innovate
2)
Managers deliver results; Leaders create
possibility
3)
Managers achieve through authority; Leaders
attain through influence.
4)
Managers avoid risk; Leaders take risks
5)
Managers seek order; Leaders embrace chaos
6)
Managers react; Leaders respond
7)
Managers focus on what they do; Leaders focus
on who they are
8) Managers command; Leaders coach
9)
Managers live in the past and future; Leaders
live in the present
10)
Managers give direction; Leaders take
initiative
About the
Submitter:
Submitted by
Phil E. Maille, Colyseum Advisors® Ltd, who can be
reached at phil@crm-colyseum-advisors.co.uk,
or visited on the web at http://www.crm-colyseum-advisors.co.uk
Power of NOW
: 10 helpful insights to remind you that
everything changes in the moment you do
1)
Stop looking Outside of Yourself
2)
Take Responsibility for Your Life Experience 3)
Have Your Own Life 4)
Due What is True In Spite of the Consequences 5)
Face those Fearful Feelings 6)
Jump Into The Battle 7)
Laugh
in the Face of Defeat 8) Discover the Difference Between Your Head and Your Heart Real emotions don't start with thought 9)
Follow What you Love 10)
Put Your Life in Order
About the
Submitter:
Extract from the
book "Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle
The Top 10
Ways to Overcome Perfectionism
"Remember
that fear always lurks behind perfectionism.
Confronting your fears and allowing yourself
the right to be human can, paradoxically,
make you a far happier and more productive
person."
Dr. David
M. Burns
Perfectionism
can block your road to success pretty quickly.
Perfectionism in any part of your life gives
you a payoff. It could be control, or it
could be a way to affirm what we hold to be
true about
ourselves. Perfectionism, goes hand in
hand with disliking ourselves,
and seeing things in a negative light.
Since we know there is no real state of being
perfect, we ensure we will never be satisfied with
who we are. Perfection only exists
where fault does not. So then
we must constantly be in search for our
faults. Here are ways to get
over perfectionism!
1)
Start by looking for the good in yourself
versus what is not perfect.
Imagine
that a leader from another planet sent 2
people here
with different
tasks. One was to seek perfection...the other
to seek for goodness. What do you think each
person would report? The one seeking
perfection would not find it--they would see
only a terrible world.....the
one seeking goodness would be overwhelmed with
goodness...look
for the goodness in you.
2)
Shift from judging yourself and the world, to
understanding.
Judgment holds criticism, hatred, and is loaded with blocks to our success and prosperity. Understanding brings us acceptance of others and the ability to love our imperfect/perfect selves. For goodness to come into our lives we must come from a place of acceptance and giving.
3)
Start asking yourself, "Did I do the best
I could? Am I doing the best
I can?"
Versus
"Am I the best?" or believing that
you have to be the
"best."
Who defines that anyway? Remember we will
never make everyone happy,
and we don't have to.
4)
Set attainable goals, reach them, and
celebrate all the bumps along
the way.
On the outside it would seem that perfectionists tend to keep their goals very high. But on the inside, perfectionists keep their expectations and hopes very low, so there will be less of a chance of being let down. In our heart of hearts we really don't expect to succeed. Again, reinforcing our negative views about ourselves.
5)
Letting go of perfectionism may require you to
change your
internal
dialogue.
Start talking to yourself differently. Instead of criticizing yourself "I am such a klutz" say, whoops, "I didn't see that in my way." Start with the little things.
6)
Know what your personal payoff is, for being a
perfectionist.
The payoffs for
being a perfectionist can be endless. For some
it could be for
the sole purpose of having a great deal of
control. To be
and do everything "perfect" offers
one a great deal of control, but also
a great deal of limitation. Perfectionism does
not serve any purpose well. It promotes misery
and dissatisfaction. If you can see that
it harms you, you can let go of it.
7)
Practice extreme self-care for
extreme self-esteem. Perfectionism
can justify our low self-worth and disapproval.
When we are
unable to fulfill our perfect goals we get to
say, for example,
"See -- I knew no one would love me
unless I got this weight off."
Or, "I knew I wasn't smart or perfect
enough to get that job."
Choose to turn
this around by taking extremely good care of
yourself.
8)
Define what it would look like if you were to
feel truly fulfilled.
Get a coach to help you create your vision.
Perfectionism
also offers a beautiful vision of fulfillment.
Our internal
dialogue goes something like this... "I
could be
successful if
only I would.....do, be, have, etc."
What we tend to do,
when coming from a perfectionist viewpoint, is
feel fulfilled based
on the beliefs and the visions that we could
do and be better.
Envisioning this
perfect self also makes us lovable to
ourselves, and others.
9)
Forgive yourself because you love yourself.
Another reason
that we may have chosen to be perfectionistic
in the
past is that it offers us a reason to forgive
ourselves. Deep down we
know it is impossible to be perfect, so we are
not to blame for falling
short. We don't have to take responsibility.
10)
Don't let the search for the perfect life get
blocked with
perfectionism.
Practice being ok with who you are, and where you are in your life. Keep in action. Love the ride. Know that what seems imperfect in life is really perfect, for where you are suppose to be.
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